Monday, February 4, 2008

table for one


Well, for a while there I was getting cocky, being as I was in a relationship that was going on three months. "Maybe I can't give the single perspective anymore on our blog" I thought to myself.

But, as it turns out, I am freshly single again as of today. Urg.

I am of course bummed out about my relationship not working out, but if you've been a faithful blog reader you'll remember I knew this relationship was a longshot from the start. So, no big surprises here. We were incompatible on a lot of levels. But I did like the guy. I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel disappointed to once again find myself at the end of an unsuccesful relationship.

Break ups. I guess they hurt less the more you do them, especially if you do them for the right reasons. I feel like even though this relationship was a short one, I learned a few lessons about speaking my mind, following my heart, and listening to my intuition (which has the annoyingly cassandra-esque quality of being always right but easily ignored). Of course they make me a little wistful, and they bring up a lot of emotion and thoughts in me, but the two I want to share with you all are these two:

1. Is it a delusion to always be looking for that one "great love" that will be amazing and once in a lifetime? Is life really just full of small love and small moments that we can miss if we are focused on the hollywood ending? What's healthy about wanting romance and what is not?

and also,
2. I've been pondering the difference between "single and looking" and "single and not looking". Or I guess more specifically, being happy by yourself. Is it acceptable for people in our society to be single and not want to find a mate?


Just a few thoughts. Feel free to comment on them if you like. Or offer your own break-up war stories as solace. I'm off to the trenches.

Also, go vote tomorrow peeps!

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