What is your idea of Romance?

Unfortunately I think the older I get the harder it is to please me. When I was younger my heart fluttered all of the time. I giggled when a boy caught my eye, now I am tempted to yell, "Hey asshole, what's your problem?" How does this happen? Is it, the more I see the less I'm impressed?

Whenever I see a child I envy the way he/she looks at the world. They are literally seeing some things for the first time. Unfortunately as we grow older we become accustomed to things and can end up passing something a hundred times before we notice it. My art has gravitated towards this idea for a very long time. I struggle to live in the moment and appreciate everything. Anyone who has seen my work (you can check it out here) knows that I go to great extremes to prove to others and to myself that everything holds significance. I do believe this, but sometimes I don't live in it.

Going on a date with your boyfriend/fiance/husband is not the same as going on a date with a guy you just met. I'm not saying I want to go back to the earlier part of my relationship, but I find that love can sometimes get pushed to the side of life and that is the last thing I want. Love is life and should never be taken for granted. So, why do I?

I think all of these thoughts are coming up for me partly because planning a wedding can often times be unromantic. And that is really the last thing I want to happen. From day one girls are told that the wedding is IT! The most romantic thing in the world, something you should build your whole life up to. So dramatic...I'm not putting my wedding under those categories, but it is difficult for something to remain romantic when money and planning are tossed into the equation. That's a reality check right away. So, how do I deal with this? I breath...and try to remember who I am marrying and that this is all that matters.

Anyone else experience ups and downs of romance and love in their own relationships?

Talk to me.

--Lauren

Raise your hand if you're sexy

Just wanted to say thank you to everyone for commenting on the last post. I am really excited to use the responses I received to make an awesome work! I am eternally grateful.

So, on to another subject. I am wondering how people label themselves and how they determine that label. I want to know how many of you out there would say "YES!" to the question, "Do you think you're sexy?"

What I find most interesting about the mental thoughts I have when I ask myself this question is that I mostly concentrate on my physical appearance. So, generally the answer sways from "Hell yeah!" to "uhhh...sure." depending on the time of day, day of the week, week of the month, etc. Anyone else go through that kind of roller coaster? I will say, most of the time it is a "Hell Yeah." The not feeling sexy all the time is actually not my main concern.

What makes me think twice is that when I think of my own definition of "Sexy" it doesn't involve physical appearance (you can read it here.) But, when I look at myself in the mirror, that is all I think about. Weird, huh? I guess I'm a hypocrite or something of that nature. We all are our worst critics perhaps, but I am tired of that.

I do admit that when I put on a well fitting dress and brush and blow dry my hair, I feel sexy. But, why not feel sexy when I solve a problem or finish a new work of art?

Answer me this: What makes you feel sexy? And what do you wish made you feel sexy?

There might be more to talk about here, or I may just need to get over myself and feel sexy when I wash the dishes and do other generally "non-sexy" things. You have to start somewhere.

Just wanted to write a little note. I'm off to work on a couple of sexy projects.

--Lauren

Let's get this party started!

Hey all! The ladies and I have been thinking and talking about the art that will go along with this concept we have all been de-constucting since last September and I would like to ask for some help on my first piece.

I would like to collect some stories and quotes from you all if you don't mind...

If you would, please answer the following questions:

1. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever said to you?

2. What is the most romantic scene/quote in a movie? (If you don't have the exact quote just give me the movie and the scene and I will figure it out--I have mad google and youtube skills).

3. Tell me about a time when you were expecting romance and you got the opposite (an example would be my peanut butter sandwich story).


Please answer these questions in the comments section, or email them to me mynameislauren@gmail.com if you want to remain anonymous. If you don't have answers to all three, then just give me the answers you do have.

Thanks for your time and all of your help.

Lauren