Being a Virgin.

I had an interesting conversation with a friend last week about being a virgin. Although neither one of us is, we recollected what life was like before we ventured into the world of sex and love making. I remembered high school and the complete rebellion I had against having sex. Although I thought I was being strong and non-conformist back then I think it was mainly out of fear. Fear of pregnancy and relationships in general. Fear of getting my heart broken.

But, that really isn't where the conversation headed. We were talking about the "just get it over with" thoughts that some people (both men and women) have about the first time they "go all the way." I was not one of those girls. I was actually told by a guy once that sex "is not a big deal." He was trying to sleep with me at the time and said this comment after finding out I was a virgin. I told him that to me it was and then I said good-bye. I do know people who believe, like I do, that sex is a big deal, but they still want to get rid of the word virgin as soon as possible.

I think there is certainly a stigma attached to that word. There is a thin line when it comes to sex. Speaking as a woman, I know that the age of losing one's virginity is important to some women. Lose it too young and you're a slut. Wait too long and you're desperate and a spinster. At least that is what you think other people are saying about you.


So, tell me about your first time. Was it magical or did you just want it to end? Now, I know the "first time" is certainly not the best time (I hope) but when I say magical I don't mean in the physical satisfaction. I know you probably still remember it--do you look back on it with fond memories or do you wish you would have held out a bit longer-or are you happy it happened so you weren't so caught up in the idea of it--or something else...

Talk to me.